{"id":124,"date":"2016-01-31T16:13:50","date_gmt":"2016-01-31T21:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cheerupcs.com\/?p=124"},"modified":"2016-02-02T19:17:25","modified_gmt":"2016-02-03T00:17:25","slug":"what_is_your_baby_thinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cheerupcs.com\/index.php\/2016\/01\/31\/what_is_your_baby_thinking\/","title":{"rendered":"How Do You Get Your Baby To Trust You?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>How can you\u00a0help your baby to feel safe with you &amp; around others?<\/h2>\n<p>Erik Erikson an influential\u00a0Psychologist, spoke about 8 stages of Psychosocial Development. His first few stages is a great read for new mothers as they talk about child&#8217;s psychological development.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I am here to help\u00a0you learn more about the first stage,\u00a0<strong>Trust vs Mistrust,<\/strong> where you will understand how your <em>consistent presence<\/em> as a caregiver will help your child trust the world around him\/her.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Your baby either learns to Trust or Mistrust, depending upon your Consistency or Inconsistency in your care.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: left;\"><strong>\u00a0I am here, You can trust me<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-439\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"439\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/cheerupcs.com\/index.php\/2016\/01\/31\/what_is_your_baby_thinking\/trust1-1\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png?fit=501%2C387&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"501,387\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Trust1 (1)\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png?fit=300%2C232&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png?fit=501%2C387&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-439\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png?resize=501%2C387\" alt=\"Trust1 (1)\" width=\"501\" height=\"387\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png?w=501&amp;ssl=1 501w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Trust1-1.png?resize=300%2C232&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 501px) 100vw, 501px\" \/><\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>When you provide your baby with:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Constant touch<\/li>\n<li>Eye contact<\/li>\n<li>Meet your child\u2019s needs almost immediately<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0Smile at them<\/li>\n<li>Talk to them<\/li>\n<li>Pick them up when they cry<\/li>\n<li>Be there for them, when they need you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Your actions tell them that, <strong>&#8216;You are safe with me.&#8217;<\/strong> This eventually builds the virtue of <strong><em>&#8216;Hope&#8217;<\/em><\/strong> in your child. They begin to feel that they can trust you and they grow up to trust people around them too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Inconsistent Caregiving \u00a0will lead to Mistrust<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-443\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"443\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/cheerupcs.com\/index.php\/2016\/01\/31\/what_is_your_baby_thinking\/mistrust\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png?fit=501%2C440&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"501,440\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Mistrust\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png?fit=300%2C263&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png?fit=501%2C440&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-443\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png?resize=501%2C440\" alt=\"Mistrust\" width=\"501\" height=\"440\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png?w=501&amp;ssl=1 501w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/cheerupcs.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/01\/Mistrust.png?resize=300%2C263&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 501px) 100vw, 501px\" \/><\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">When your child<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Does not receive consistent care,<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You do not pick them up to pacify\u00a0them,<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Fail to provide warmth<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Do not meet child&#8217;s basic needs<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ignoring their presence<\/li>\n<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Being preoccupied in your own thoughts<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>All the above\u00a0leads to building frustration in your child, they begin to realize that the warmth &amp; love is not consistent, therefore it is not <strong>predictable &amp; reliable.<\/strong> This eventually creates Mistrust.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>As they grow up, they will feel that the <strong>world is not a safe place to be in.<\/strong> It is undependable, unpredictable. Eventually hampering relationships around them.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>As parents, you have a huge role to play in your child&#8217;s confidence levels. Your presence can do wonders!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Stay tuned to my next blog on <strong>how to talk to your child while you Toilet Training them<\/strong>. This is the second stage of Erik Erikson&#8217;s Psychosocial developmental theory. This will give you an insight into how your words as a caregiver matter in shaping your child&#8217;s identity.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><\/h3>\n<p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can you\u00a0help your baby to feel safe with you &amp; around others? Erik Erikson an influential\u00a0Psychologist, spoke about 8 stages of Psychosocial Development. 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