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I did not succeed, I am a BIG FAT failure…\"Iamnotgoodenough\"<\/a><\/h2>\n

Yes, this is what we keep telling ourselves all the time. What happens after that ? We play this one sentence in our minds like how we play our favourite song again & again. Can you imagine, what this could do to us?<\/p>\n

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It becomes our reality! <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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We believe that if we do not succeed, We are a total\u00a0 failure. If our marriage was not successful once, it will never be. If we do not get a few dance moves right, we will never be able to learn dancing. If we scream at our child, we will not be a good parent. If we got rejected in our interview, we are not good enough.<\/em><\/p>\n

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All the above thoughts indicate that we are a victims of \u00a0“All or Nothing thinking”.\u00a0<\/strong>This is also called Black or White thinking. With this unhelpful thinking pattern,<\/strong> we are unable to see shades of grey that eventually leads to feeling Depressed.<\/p>\n

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To make sure we do not travel that path, we have to include certain shades of grey<\/strong> in our lives.<\/p>\n

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I may not have nailed this interview, I can definitely know how\u00a0to prepare for the next one. I do get angry sometimes, but that does not make me a bad human being. I have had a long break in my career, but that does not stop me from exploring different fields.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Altering our thoughts<\/strong> a bit, brings about a sea change in how we feel about ourselves. Thoughts are the seeds to what we\u00a0will become.<\/p>\n

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Help yourself by trying to tweak your thoughts<\/strong> a bit. You will be a witness to a massive change in your mood & you will see how people are attracted towards you because of how you see your life!<\/p>\n

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This is just one of the many unhelpful thinking styles, stay tuned to my other parts\u00a0<\/strong>, that\u00a0will help you identify which thinking style you tilt towards\u00a0& what you could do about it.<\/p>\n

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Until then, monitor your thoughts, are you an All or nothing thinker?<\/strong><\/p>\n

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