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Autonomy versus Shame & Doubt(2-3 yrs) In my last blog, I spoke about Trust vs Mistrust, that is the 1st stage of Erik Erikson's theory of Psychosocial development, As promised, we are now moving on to the 2nd stage, that is Autonomy vs Shame & Doubt (2-3 yrs), which will be very useful  & informative for mothers who are noticing that their child is becoming independent and having their own preferences & choices now.     This stage is significantly very important because they will now start to explore the world around him/her they…

Don't Worry! Just moved out of a relationship? In a relationship, but its complicated? No time for relationships, but still want to be in one? Peer Pressure kills you? Confused between two or more? Scared to commit? You like someone, but that person is just not interested? or may be you would love to celebrate it, but your partner does not give this day any importance? Whatever the reason it may be...   I am sure its tough to be in any of these positions!     I am not…

I did not succeed, I am a BIG FAT failure... Yes, this is what we keep telling ourselves all the time. What happens after that ? We play this one sentence in our minds like how we play our favourite song again & again. Can you imagine, what this could do to us?   It becomes our reality!   We believe that if we do not succeed, We are a total  failure. If our marriage was not successful once, it will never be. If we do not get a few…

Letting go - How does one do this? I woke up to this one, 'If you love Batman, let him go, because Batman Returns.' What caught my attention is 'Let him Go' Imagine if we also looked at life and relationships just like this. Being able to decide what is right & wrong for us. Eventually moving on for something better.   How many of us are able let go? How many of us are able to break the cycle of abuse?   Letting go is the toughest thing to do, because we…

Miss being home? Don't feel belonged ? Simple things to keep in mind.. If you are missing home, then hats off to your parents, friends & your country who have loved you unconditionally that you are finding it difficult to live without them or get used a life of not having them around you. Parents, take a bow! Good news is that you are and will always be connected to them no matter which part of the world you are in.   It is so ironic, when we are with them, we fail…

5 ways to take care of your parents in their old age “Parents”, the word by itself brings about a number of emotions. We may fight with them all the time and may not agree with their decisions, but when someone else says something about them, we can get furious, possessive & extremely defensive. That is “our love” for them that speaks volumes. Some of us are blessed to have both our parents by our side during our growing up years. While we are growing up and trying to understand how…

2 quick ways to feeling happy! The best of the best people, who look very strong and have proved it time and again, fall short of their coping mechanisms. We all at some point in our life feel extremely low and want to bury ourselves in some remote place, never to be noticed again. Having said that, it is ok to not be happy all the time. I completely understand that we experience some troubling times in our life. It could be our job, spouse, family, children, parents or friends.…